First- you guys crack me up!! Seriously. If you haven't had a chance to read the comments from my last post about my quirks, you must. They will make you feel much better about yourself. Some of them are crazy, but dare I say I do understand each and every one!! And some of your quirks even reminded me of some I forgot to list. I'm keeping those to myself. You will absolutely think I've lost it if I publish my "real" list. :)
And now on to the real reason for this post. Uh-oh. I'm bound to get hate mail for this one. But here goes-
I understand that Facebook can be used for good. Spreading the word about prayer requests. Keeping people posted about illnesses, recovery and needs. But, really- does the world need to know that you just took our your trash?! Or see the pictures of you posing in your bikini at the beach last summer?! Really?!
Now, I HAVE a Facebook account. I broke down and signed up about 8-9 months ago. I hate it. I (almost) never get on. I did find a dear friend of mine from years and years ago, and I am so grateful. But beyond that, it is completely worthless to me. Every time I log on I feel like I'm back in high school, and by the way people talk, you'd think that's where we were. To prove my point I logged on this morning. This is what I saw-
*Someone trying to build some virtual barn.
*People trying to figure out which "Steel Magnolias" character they were most like.
*People talking about "The Bachelor", what happened and how tragic it was! Tragic, really?!
*Some posting pictures of the latest and greatest (drunken) party. They are married with children!
I want to hear your thoughts. Disagree with me if you need to....I'm ready for it. Tell me what I'm missing. Is Facebook really a reason to miss hours and hours of time with your family? I am guilty. The internet sucks me in TOO MANY times! There. I said it. But I truly see people addicted to FB. Posting about every....single....moment of their day. And don't even get me started about Twitter. Is nothing private anymore?!
I am sure this post may not be one of my most popular. Start the comments.
And to all of my friends who have a relationship with Facebook- I still love you in spite of your Facebook status!:) As for this girl, I'm done.
In Him,
E
10 comments:
Sometimes I spend TOO much time on FB and I do wish there was a way to not have to see the barn raisings, etc. As a homeschooling mom of 3, it is my connection with the outside world, knowing what is going on with lots of people that I don't keep in touch with by phone or in any other way. Some I homeschool with, but don't get to know well in the times we see each other at school related functions, as I am usually chasing Jessie. Others that I am close too...there simply isn't time to keep in touch in other ways as ofen as I'd like. I like knowing what's going on in everyone's life. Most of my friends don't post the nonsense (I took a shower, etc.)...although a small few do. Lots of cute, quick snippets.
I had a fb account for about 2 months. I was so addicted...hours would fly by and I would wonder where that time went! I did love catching up with "old" friends, but I had to leave fb...too much wasted time, and Satan knew just how to lure me away from God and family. Lesson learned!
I LOVE it - as Josette said, it is a way for a SAHM to keep in touch with the outside world. But I LOVE catching up with old friends from childhood that I had lost touch with, lost e-mails for, etc...I have also found a lot of camp support and donors. Why look at all the negative? I only focus on the positive of fb!! You can hide all of the farmville and other nonsense if you don't want to read it. You can make your account as public or as private as you want. And I only get on when the boys are in bed. I would rather chat with a friend via computer than sit and fold a pile of laundry alone. Knowing what people are doing is fun, it is a bit of normalcy to an otherwise, hectic life. I enjoy knowing that someone with 4 boys has had the same everyday struggles that I am going through and that I am not a bad mother. And being able to talk to her when I would have completely lost touch with her (not even knowing that she had had children) if fb wasn't around, is nice and therapeutic. I love it. It can be very annoying, but I let those annoyances pass and I only focus on the good and what I can get out of it. Everything in life has it's negatives...
I think it's all in moderation, I like facebook because I can keep up with family members that live in other states but I can also see how it could get addicting also.
I cannot believe how ALIKE we are in so many things! Again, this is a post that I too could have written. :) I've received numerous invites to FB, but as I looked at my friends' list of friends, I could see how it would be a domino effect, with hundreds of friends for me to keep up with. It's not that I don't like the people, but I have some things and people God has asked me to focus on...and anything that temps me away from that is something I personally have to avoid (stripping off anything that weighs me down to run for the prize, as Paul said). Truth be known, I do have a "secret" FB account...there were 2 teenagers who needed some guidance, and the only means of communication they have is FB...but I limited it to those 2 girls and their mom...and I only get messages every couple of months. That's enough for me. :)
I love FB for the chance to connect with family who live hundreds of miles away and friends that I have not seen in years. I also love it to connect with other adoptive parents. But... it does have it's downside. There are people (including myself) who spend WAY too much time on there. And the games? Crazy waste of time, and yet I do play some of them. The fact is, FB is a form of escapism. It is addictive to some and can be harmful to real life relationships and cause people to ignore real life responsibilities.
I think FB is as good, or as bad, as each person makes it to be. If someone can use it only to connect with others and not spend too much time on FB, then it can be a good social tool.
I'm with you girl...been pondering the lack of privacy myself...and since we were ALMOST internet free for a week in Cali, well, I've been considering DEactivating my FB account. I'm more of a blog kinda girl. I like to share my heart...but not in update sentences...seems like so many people prefer the little bites instead of the meal.
I totally get the annoyances...the mafias, farms, cafes...seriously people? I KNOW we all have much better ways to invest our short time here on earth! Speaking of...time for me to go invest some of mine in my children.
Love,
Holly
Hi E;
I must say I don't have one. Not that I didn't ever want one, but some of my adopted children have violent bio-parents and I figured it was just too risky putting myself onto facebook. I am not sure how it works, as I've never been on. I would have loved to connect with old friends, to share my testimony and my love of Jesus...because I find the best way to have an influence on anyone is to first be their friend.
Thinking I won't be getting a FB account ever, but enjoying having a blog and still being able to share our story of His Goodness.
thank you for rejoicing with us over our soon-to-be daughter Simenesh. Only 5 weeks!!
Kimmie
mama to 8
one homemade and 6 1/2 adopted
Im SO agreeing with you!
I might be on there once a week at most. Thats even rare! I can get word out about an adoption update or prayer need. I did find alot of our old church friends from early marriage in S FL but they arent on much either. My time killer is reading blogs and e-mail. sigh.
Hey there! I also have face book. BUT I agree with you for the most part!!!! I work so I am not on as much as some are and I do not play the games. I did do "my farm' for a while but decided it was taking too much of my time. I like FACE BOOK because I have been able to find old friends that I would likely never have found BUT I also see things that I do not like on there. I pretty much check for updates on specific things and spread God's word on there once a day. I hope that my spreading God's word touches someone's life. Lots of Love~
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